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Breaking free from what others think

At 17, I was a bundle of nerves about getting my driver’s license.

We had automatic cars in the family, but I was determined to learn how to drive a manual car to have options in the future.

My parents agreed to cover the cost of manual driving lessons, but there was one hitch—I couldn’t practice as much as I wanted because we didn’t own a manual car (this was before mandatory practice hours).

A few days after turning 18, my driver’s test was fast approaching, and I started freaking out.

That’s when Mum pulled out one of her trusty sayings: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”

She reminded me the worst outcome would be if I weren’t here.

The next worst thing would be making a mistake and needing to retake the test. Her words didn’t ease my concern.

Then it hit me.

The real fear wasn’t about passing the test itself; it was more about what my friends would think since they had all passed on their first attempt.

There it was — I was terrified of what others would think of me.

I know I am not alone in admitting this fear.

In the latest episode of my Courageous Me podcast

I tackle this common obstacle that can limit our growth and happiness: the fear of what others think of you.

I dive into ways this fear shows up in our lives, from perfectionism and procrastination to people-pleasing and self-doubt.

Here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to hold you back.

No one wants the fear of judgment to stop you from expressing yourself, asking questions, having challenging conversations, or chasing your dreams.

You can break free from the debilitating grip by recognising these patterns and accepting that people’s opinions are beyond your control.

In the episode, I explore practical strategies to manage this fear, take courageous action, and back yourself fully.

With a shift in perspective, you can get on with living your life and doing what makes you happy.

Here’s to you and not letting what others think stop you from going after your dreams.

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